Autism Awareness Month
I thought I would write a blog this week because April is Autism Awareness Month. Ask different people what this means and you will hear different answers - even in the autism community.
For me, it’s just about learning or, in fact, educating people on one small detail. We sometimes presume that people “just know.” I don’t even know everything and I’ve been in this community for two decades!
When I think of what I really want people to know about autism is that it’s not a disease - it doesn’t define a person. It doesn’t make a person “less than” anyone else. In my opinion, it is not a “gift” even though one of our kids was identified as gifted. It is for sure a different life and it is, in fact, very difficult at times. There are many things that can contribute to the success or demise of a day. People on the spectrum see things different, they feel things different and they act differently at times from their peers. There is nothing wrong with this, it is just different.
I talk to my children the same way that I would anyone else, even if I don’t get the reply back that I expect. I treat them as normally as I can but I am also sensitive to their specific needs and challenges. For example, I know the face that our daughter makes when she is totally and completely overloaded and overwhelmed and cannot speak. I know how our son is feeling just by the choice of shows he is watching. When the frantic text comes that she doesn’t know what to do and I have to calmly talk her through the situation and when he takes 15 mins to come out of the car into the house. I know what all of these mean and I don’t have to ask questions.
I’ve heard the hurtful comments and I know that sometimes people may be so grateful that they don’t have to deal with some of the issues that our family does. But I also truly believe and know that God created our family. This is His plan for us and He gets us through the hard times and even brings such beautiful moments into our lives. For this I am truly grateful. I am grateful that I can count on God to bless our family and He gives us what we need to get through each day.
If I had to make an outward observation on the world, my wish would be for more kindness, more understanding - sometimes just a smile or a wave to a child. The little things are what can make all of the difference in someone’s day. Also, if you have a question, it is ok to ask. Sometimes you can educate people just by engaging them.
There is not a reference to “autism” in the Bible, but Proverbs 31:8-9 says,
”Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all who are destitute. Open your mouth, judge righteously, defend the rights of the poor and needy.”
Do you know anyone with autism? If so, perhaps you can make a point to talk to them, write them a note or do something special for them this month so that they know that people care about them.
Shelly Wedge
Exceptional Family Ministries Coordinator
Amberlea Church